Coping With Betrayal

It sucks beyond words when you get fooled.

Two times I can remember where I thought someone actually wanted to be my friend but didn’t really wasn’t all that pleasant. Especially when you once trusted someone so deeply. It makes the pain a bit harder to deal with and to understand.

A long time ago, when I was in high school, I had a ‘friend’ that I spoke to every day and thought that he liked being around me. Come to find out, he made it clear that he was only my friend because he felt sorry for me.

At work, where a lot of drama tends to happen anyways, a person smiled to my face every day but then I overheard some comments she made in the next aisle. She was having a time making fun of me, making little impersonations of my mannerisms and made it a point to declare that I wasn’t as ‘good’ as I thought I was.

See, the thing is that people think because I’m so quiet out in the world, I don’t pay attention so much.

Well, that’s not entirely true. I listen and observe a ton.

There are times when I’ve heard things said that hurts at first and it can damn well suck to take notice of someone’s true thoughts on you.

What do I want to say to these people?

But I want to say this next thing quite clearly so there’s no misunderstanding to these two people that pulled the wool over my eyes. Ready?

Thank you!

No, really. Thanks for being a back biter.

I’ve not lost my mind and, no, I’m not out of touch with reality – whatever reality is.

Being a visual learner and experiencing this sort of thing first hand, that has helped me better detect people that are truly out to be a positive influence in my world. People that want to be my friend in a completely legitimate way. I am at the highest belief that is what matters the most.

It’s helped me realize a couple of truths and I’m cool with that.

Not everyone is going to love you.
Still wish them well because they could be jealous.

The basic breakdown of those two points is just that. Some people are going to want to spend an afternoon with you because they dig you.

Some ain’t gonna.

I have a friend that has been loyal to me, and I to him, for a decade now. Just an awesome, honest friendship that doesn’t rely on anything but our own goofy quarks. I don’t feel like I have to pretend around him and he doesn’t around me.

That’s the sort of people that I want to hang with.

The other time I trusted someone that led to me being bit in the ass was at work.

I had just got a job promotion and the other chick, I feel she was jealous I got that promotion. I happened to be on the next aisle in the grocery store we worked at and I overheard my name and the mockery go full swing.

Looking back on it, I just wish she’d have gotten my accent right.

The Takeaway

Live your life and be yourself. So cliché but it is the truth.

Don’t try to be something you’re not and don’t change who you are either. You’ll attract the people that you’re supposed to, the ones you gel with, and screw the haters.